Just a Little Bit of Nostalgia

We went to a relative’s high school graduation party, and it seems like there were parties EVERYWHERE.

Which makes me a bit nostalgic for the summer after High School Graduation where I was finally DONE with Day Care (I mean High School) and eagerly looking forward to college.  I had no real responsibilities, and everything was SO EXCITING!  It was a new millennia!  I was an adult!  I could DO ADULT THINGS!  I was moving to a BIG CITY, and I already had made some amazing friends.

When I finished college in 2008, it was a whole ‘nother story.  It was a slog to get to the end, and I didn’t even walk because it would have been four hours or more in the sun waiting.  I didn’t have it in me.  Instead, I got my graduation photos done while everyone else was busy graduating, and then I went home.

I had a job.

My ex and I had just gone down in flames.  Which was good in the long run, but it still really hurt.  We broke up in March or April, but I had to live with him still until July because of the lease.

I was sick.

My friends had all moved out of town.

I had nothing to look forward to except grind.

Thankfully, I met my husband about a year later, and while my health had degraded enough that I ended up on disability, we were together.  My dad fired me from working with him, and I ended up living at my in-laws while my husband finished college.

It was really rough, but I wasn’t alone anymore.  I had my husband, partner, and friend.

Things improved.

I found a program to buy a house (USDA Rural Development), and we bought this little house for $49,000, and then in less than a month we got the dog we’d always wanted.  We found him on Craigslist of all places.

I got my husband a job working for my dad, and they love working together.

By 2015, my health had stabilized thanks to being on SSDI and being able to get the medications I needed.  I wasn’t improving anymore, and I figured that was as good as I was going to get, so I reached out to the Division of Vocational Rehabilitation.  I started looking for work.

2016 was a hellish start to the year.  My neighbor’s house burned, killing their two daughters.  We were home that night, and there was nothing we could do.  It was devastating.  I felt so guilty that I hadn’t done better, that we were too late.

Then my mom had a stroke.  We had a rough couple weeks before they figured out what caused it.  She got better.

And in May 2016 I found the job I have now with the amazing people I know now.  I transitioned off of disability in 2017.  We got better cars, ones that aren’t junkers.

So I guess, the point is that even though it was really dark for a long time, we made it through.

I’ve grown a lot since High School, grown a lot since College.

And attending my relative’s party, surrounded by people that had known me my entire life, for good or bad, I was really happy that I’m where I am now.  I wouldn’t redo it for the world.

Have you been attending graduations this year?  Am I the only one relieved to be where I am now?  What was your path to today?  Inquiring minds want to know!

 

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