Have you ever been around people who always have something to say? A person who doesn’t necessarily care about others opinions or choices? Or maybe they think they are accepting but they are only accepting if you do it their way?
I’m so tired of hearing things that just aren’t ok anymore. Some of it is generational. Older people, I’ve noticed, can be so rude. People in general are just not thinking about what they are saying. Here are a few things that have been on my mind lately.
1. Stop asking if someone is having more kids! Everytime I hear this, I want to roll my eyes. It’s none of your business! A family friend asked me this at my brother’s graduation, in front of everyone. I said, “don’t worry about it!” Of course I said it pretty sassily. He can take it. My Grandma chimed in, “she has two lovely kids, what’s wrong with that?” AJ started making jokes and then our friend said he’s going to pray we get twins. Of course, my Grandma, who had twins, says, “oh stop it!”
2. “I would’ve taken that child to the car and whooped him.” Ok, first of all, you are getting a glimpse of what’s going on in the child’s day. You have no idea why that child is acting the way it is. A child that is acting out or crying usually needs something. Do we act accordingly for adults? No? Stop it.
3. “When I have kids…” We all do it or did it. But when you go extreme with it, you need to calm down. I’ve heard people saying extreme punishments or how they want to parent in such an exaggerated state, it’s unreal. And if that’s how you really feel about kids, why are you going to have kids?
4. “We only get 18 summers with our kids, make this one count!” I get where they are coming from with this, I really do. But the reality is, families with two working parents aren’t coming up with all these crazy activities to do every day. If you are, kudos to you. There’s things I want to do with my kids during the summer, but it’s going to be when time allows. I have bills and food to pay for! A co-worker told me that they say summer is one of the times when parents feel the most guilt. I believe it. Another thought too, I don’t know, it might just be me… But I’m hoping my kids live past 18. So calm down. They aren’t really going anywhere.
5. Don’t tell me what to do with my family. I don’t care who you are, you don’t need to tell me what I can and can’t do or should or shouldn’t do. Don’t tell me how I should be spending my time with my family. It’s no one’s business but ours. I don’t live to please anyone who doesn’t do anything for my family.
Alright, those are the top five things that have been heavy on my heart lately. Sometimes I don’t think people realize the effect on some of the things they say.